CHANGE, FOR OUR OWN PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT ( Part 5 )

DISTINCT AND LINKED

There are two very distinct, yet linked, areas of our life experience:

The first is our MIND PROCESS.
This consists of our brain, the mind and the thoughts we receive and process.

The second is WHAT HAPPENS IN PHYSICAL REALITY.
You could term this the ‘what happens on the outside as a result of how we all think and how we all put our thoughts into action.’
Apart from what we call ‘natural events’, nothing happens in the world we observe without thoughts being put into action. Before we do anything, we always have the thought about it first, even though at times the process is so lighteningly fast that we don’t perceive the difference between the two.

These two states are inter-dependent.

So, whatever happens to us is dependent, first of all, on what we think and more importantly how we think of it, the quality of our chosen thoughts. This may include our attitude or viewpoint, whether that’s judgement of ourselves or others, anger towards someone or something, hatred of something, wanting revenge, or our feelings of joy at an occurrence or love for something.

How we think, in the first instance, has an effect on what happens.
So it stands to reason that if we can only change how we think of something, and most importantly how we think of ourselves and of others, then the outward reality will change too.

A change in our outward reaction to an occurrence is the first thing that will help a situation. But if we remain seething with anger on the inside for instance, in our thoughts, in our mind, then the transformation, for us, will mot be complete and won’t change how we feel long term. Nor will it change the happenings in our world. Occurrences happen to give us the chance to change. Once we change, we don’t need the same type of occurrence to prompt to us as previously…....so it doesn’t! We’ve transformed a part of ourselves. You’ll know when you’ve done that because you’ll notice a change in your circumstance. The similar situation that you once reacted to will not be coming up now. It doesn’t need to any more. You changed to a more caring way and you are now more in harmony with your Natural Way.

To really alter our state of ‘feeling’ we have to change our perception and, most importantly, our attitude to ….whatever it is that’s causing us grief.

Our attitude determines our reaction.
The reaction we have is pre-determined by the attitude we hold.

If you notice, your reaction happens quite automatically. Trying to change your reaction, whilst still holding on to the same set of attitudes, doesn’t work.
You might think that you’re not going to be ‘like that’ any more, yet, when the similar situation re-occurs………it happens again. You’ve reacted……and you could kick yourself for doing it again.

So if you’re reacting negatively to something, go away and examine what you really think of the person or the object or whatever it is that appears to be responsible for your outburst. Write all about it if it helps. Then ask yourself…..what can I change here, in my thinking, what am I judging or criticising or ………whatever it that you see you are thinking? Acknowledge how you are really feeling. Be honest with yourself.

One thing’s for certain, it’s useless to think we can change the world/other people/objects/animals/attitudes of others, etc. in the hope that doing so will make us feel okay.
It doesn’t work that way.
Getting rid of one obnoxious person will force another one into your perception if you have not changed your way of thinking toward such people. [It happens like that to give us opportunities to change to a better way (better for ourselves).]
By choosing to think and be different, our life will be different. That’s the way it’s arranged. It’s the Pattern of Thought available to us.
No Change of Thinking = No Change to the Movie of Your Life
Change of Thinking = Change to the Movie of Your Life

So, when I first set out a few days ago on the way of thinking where I asked myself whether we could reset our mind to its default settings, like I did with my computer’s internet browser, I find that, in the end, it’s all down to us. We have to do it. No popping of a pill or flicking of a switch. It has taken a great deal of repetitive habits over many years to get this way so it stands to reason that there will need to be a period of time involved in re-gaining a better degree of balance to create harmony and peace within.

There’s an effective process by which it can be achieved.
But we can do it! It might take effort, sometimes a bit of upset, and acknowledgement of things about ourselves that we’d rather not accept. Contemplation about how we are getting on. Sometimes it seems hard………..but we can all get there. And it gets easier as we go along!

Have fun on your jouney………………..

CHANGE, FOR OUR OWN PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT ( Part 4 )

I’M NOT HAVING THAT…….

As a child, we are under the control and influence of others and we don’t even know that we have choices unless that is what we are taught. We are taught to comply.
As we grow into what we term an adult, we are still complying because we have conditioned ourselves, through force of habit, to be as we were taught to be. We ‘go along with’ ‘the system’.

Whatever age we are, teenager or 80 year old, once we learn about this all-pervading, worldwide system of conditioning, we can kick-start the process of change within.
Perhaps one of the first things we can say to ourselves is “I’m not putting up with that anymore!”
We can begin to think that we have the freedom to be as we want to be, as we feel is natural for us…….and without needing the approval of anyone else either. We can stop putting up with the rubbish! Who’s life is it anyway?
This does not have to be an outward Revolution but an inner one. Revolutionising the way we are as a human being.

Ask yourself a question……………..
What are you putting up with in your life? Or to put it in the first person singular “What am I putting up with in my life?” Be honest with yourself.

CHANGE, FOR OUR OWN PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT ( Part 3 )

WE CAN FEEL DIFFERENT TO HOW WE FEEL NOW

This squashing of our own naturally instinctive way of thinking turns our natural senses or feelings into a fear, fear of being ourselves. (The sense has become an emotion, fear).
“I am frightened of being me” actually means “I am frightened of trusting my own thoughts and ideas” and is often based upon what others have said, or ignored, about us. This can turn into “I hate my life, I hate being me, I hate myself.” The most destructive aspect of all this is that the repetitive, habitual way of thinking about ourselves is so ingrained in us that we fail to see how we can ever be any different. People often say that this is just how they are and there’s no point thinking they can be any other way.

We certainly can’t be a different human being with a different life. We have to live our own life.
But we can change to ‘be’ and to feel differently within our own life by making changes to the way we process our thoughts and how we react to everything we see happening in our life. We learned how to be as we are now and we can learn how to be different from this point on.
Usually we have to acknowledge certain things about ourselves before we can move on.