SUICIDE

Why would anyone ‘commit suicide’?

Lets have a look at some possible reasons : -

Sadness and Despair about their life
Sense of Hopelessness
Suffering Pain of Mind or Body
Sense of Purposelessness
Guilt or Shame
Feel Dead Already

Low self esteem
Pressures of having to Conform
Frustration in the extreme (not getting one’s own way)
Not wishing to ‘deal with’ a situation one finds oneself in - wanting escape
Loneliness and/or Isolation (and wanting to end the feeling)
Because it is Culturally Acceptable

Whatever the case (details) there is always a REASON. It doesn’t just happen.

There is always a thought process and certain decisions, then actions taken that lead up to a suicide.
In the end, ‘a suicide’ (the person) wants to avoid dealing with the results of a situation he/she finds themselves in.
The ‘situation’ may be : --
Abject poverty
Serious illness/Pain of body
Depression/Pain of mind
Extreme frustration
Extreme guilt
Extreme sadness…….

Suicide is the End Result of a Stream of Thought Processes of a Certain Kind.
It is the final stage after a lot of earlier ways of thinking, reacting to, accepting of and experiencing the Results of Their Actions, Attitudes and Intentions, and most of all their Emotions.

EXTREME EMOTIONS.
Suicide is an Extreme situation.

Many of these ways have been foisted upon them by other people, for various reasons, usually selfish or intolerant reasons, at various stages of their life and they have believed them and continued using them, unwittingly.
The stage before suicide is the depression and despair, frustration and emotional sadness experienced and accepted. The person believes there is no other way out, a sense of hopelessness i.e. no other way to feel better.
Seemingly no other way to cope with the pain.
All of the emotional states are what we are taught are ‘normal’ in life and society - it is “Acceptable” and “Usual” for a human being to be Emotional we are told. Usually we think we deal with our emotions by covering them up (not expressing them openly) or ignoring our inner feelings.
We are taught that EMOTIONS are considered necessary as

the only driving force that makes us ‘act at all’.

Without them, we are told, we would be zombies, walking robots, un-feeling beings.

Given that we are taught to embrace emotion, both positive and negative, so-called, we still see many, many people falling into the states we call “sadness”, “despair”, “depression”, etc. Some we call ‘mentally ill’ and even try to avoid them by shutting them away from ‘normal’ society to make ourselves feel better. We let certain others amongst us deal with ‘them’ to let us get on with our ‘okay’ lives without them blighting the atmosphere of how we want our life to be. We want them ‘out of our way’ because we don’t know how to handle them, we don’t understand why they are like that.

So we might ask another question of ourselves : --

Why do so many people feel distressed, anxious, despairing, sad, angry, frustrated, lonely?

As mentioned before - there is always a reason.

If we were to ask the individual why they feel and experience any one of those conditions we might get a whole story, their story, about things that have “happened to them” along the way and now they feel so awful.
The detail would be different in each case. However, when, as we say, we ‘boil down’ the situation (remove the steam, the hot air, the storyline) we find a common denominator beneath : --
THE COMMON DENOMINATOR is an UNCARING SOCIETY
in which the individual is trying to live his/her life in as
pleasant a way as possible but thwarted at every turn
because things are not happening in the way they had
been taught they ‘would’ or ‘should’ do and now they
are feeling frustrated, not wanting to deal with it
and WANT OUT

THEY WANT A SOLUTION and suicide seems to provide it

Because things (their life) have not turned out the way they had hoped for (wanted) based on what they were taught, they do not want to handle their own situation any more and think that the easy way out is to kill themselves and avoid it altogether (as they have come to believe that this is what would happen, avoidance, as a result of what other people have told them and they accepted about death, the way of the world, of life).

DEATH, they think/believe, will end all their problems.

We have been taught (conditioned) to believe what others have been repeating, generation after generation, about
EMOTIONS, LIFE, DEATH AND THE PURPOSE OF LIFE.

If, what we had been taught, was providing everyone with a CARING SOCIETY to live in, then people would not be despairing, sad, frustrated, angry, and ultimately committing suicide.
They would be happy and contented, feeling part of things in a satisfying way.

So it is not the individual people who are at fault, it is the teaching they receive, their conditioning about how they are expected to live.

Those extremes of Emotions would not occur if we were taught a different way.
Currently SELF INTEREST is at the forefront of how we are taught that we should live.
SELF is embodied in EMOTION. They go hand-in-hand.

Use of FINE SENSES, on the other hand, when combined with CARING ATTITUDES would lead to a radically different society.
THE SICKNESS of SOCIETY shows itself as THE SICKNESS OF THE WAY OF THOUGHT of the INDIVIDUAL. Again the two go hand-in-hand.
THE CHALLENGE we all face today is to turn this way around so that SOCIETY BECOMES WELL and therefore comes to a point which NURTURES both the INDIVIDUAL and the COMMUNITY.

THE CHALLENGE is to build a community based on new principles (intentions) of real CARING, and it is this which we can now begin to define as the NEW WAY FORWARD for mankind and for the Earth, to ensure that we might all
SURVIVE INDEFINITELY.

The whole of ‘How We Are’ needs a total REASSESSMENT in a completely different way. A re-assessment of all Aspects of how we live
and what life is all about.
Discussion on the new way might include : --
CARING FOR THE INDIVIDUAL
CARING FOR THE COMMUNITY
CARING FOR THE EARTH
CARING FOR THE WHOLE

And for any of this to come to fruition we will most of all need a degree of :
CHANGE!

Changes in our ways of thinking and doing.
This would require changes in Attitudes by Individuals and Leaders alike. We are all involved whether we like it or not.
OPTING OUT is a CHOICE. Avoiding dealing with the situation is a CHOICE.
Suicide is a CHOICE.
When it comes to the CRUNCH - which way will you CHOOSE?


So what might we conclude from all this?
That : --
there is something ‘UNNATURAL’ with society - the teachings of society.
Society ‘overall’, is in SICKNESS

If life and society were really SUSTAINABLE it would feel differently to how it does now. It would feel ‘right’. Those who are sensitive to ‘how things are’ are already feeling the reality and are chomping at the bit to do things differently, to make the changes if only they knew how. They ‘feel’ the sickness in society, in the world, and they know that lots of things need to change
if we are to survive.
We can FACE UP TO THE CHALLENGE - if we choose.

THE TRUTH ABOUT A SOCIETY IS REFLECTED IN HOW WE ALL FEEL DEEP INSIDE
(and sometimes not so deep)


If we accept that suicide comes about because of failure in the way we run our society then it follows that WE ARE ALL INVOLVED.
We may not wish to admit it (to ourselves or outwardly, publicly) but we all contribute to that society and keep it going in our own ways and if that society is A FAILURE then we are all contributing to that failure in some way, even if unwittingly. That is - until we see what needs to be done to change things…….and begin, ourselves, individually, to start contributing to our community in ways that would begin the process of progressing towards a FULLY CARING SOCIETY, in our relationships with other people and with the environment we find ourselves in.

You might argue in defence, that society in your eyes is great, that life as it is for most of us is fine, brilliant even, because mostly we have what we need, and get what we want, and we rub along fine for most of the time.
On the surface, I would agree it often appears that way.
But that attitude does not take into account those who are desperate, despairing, and wanting OUT of this society - the SUICIDES.
We have to look in a different direction.



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THE OPPOSITE OF SUICIDE

Suicide is an Ending

What is the opposite of suicide?

The opposite of suicide could be said to be ‘Living No Matter What’.
Living with a certain Intent. Your Intention. Following your sensitive, natural thoughts as to how to go about your ‘life’ - how to ‘handle’ all your situations.
It might be that, in order to handle your life in a way which leads you in the opposite direction to a way of suicide, you will have to learn something new, perhaps about how someone else with a different ‘Intent’ to yours might handle things. We could consider many different ways of handling the same situation and then choose the way that feels good for us.
Life is all about choices and if we have only been taught one way to be, then we are limited to that way until we learn and accept that there may be an alternative to consider. There is always another point of view.
Then, instead of the rigid, dogmatic way we have accepted for ourselves up until now, life can open out into a wider field of vision. It becomes more interesting, fascinating. Life becomes ‘Worth Living’.
The more we know of the whole spectrum of what is possible, the more amazing life becomes.
Then we see an alternative in a tricky situation.
A Way Forward rather than an Ending.



Suicide is considered ‘AN END TO IT ’
Being ‘Intent on Living’ opens up all sorts of opportunity for a fascinating, enjoyable existence.

A FUTURE
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