COMPROMISE

Why would we compromise our own feelings, our own life?
Each individual will have his/her own reasons for doing so. The person might not clearly realise why they are ‘settling’ for, or ‘putting up’ with anything that would make their life optimally good or better than they presently do. Unless we get to the root cause or reason we skim the surface we just know that life could feel better than it currently does.
When we compromise, then all kinds of negative, emotional feelings bubble away under the surface, maybe for years, causing tension of thought and body and maybe resulting in the triggering of an illness or other bdily discomfort such as becoming overweight. Or it bursts out as anger on occasions triggered by a situation that links to the original compromising.
When we compromise (go against) what we really feel, we ignore the messages that our guidance system is urging us to take heed of to lead us to our best life. By compromising we are missing out on some of the good things that can help us evolve as human beings.
In the short term it might not feel that it matters, this loss, but long-term there will be consequences to ourselves in some way.
Very often, when compromise occurs, there is more than just our self involved in a choice. It might be that we feel obligated to someone, or to a group of people, but it is at the expense of ignoring the value of our own unique thoughts.
Yes - expense - there is always a cost and the cost is to us - it is the loss to the one who compromises his/her true feelings.
In all of this we need to be sure that we are hearing our true personal feelings and thoughts and not just those of the people who taught us their view of life as we were growing up. Our Indoctrinations and Conditioning are so strong that many of us have difficulty initially in actually hearing what our true self is trying to say to us.

So those are some of the negatives of ‘compromise’!

The opposite of a compromised way of thinking can come into play in our life by us learning a few strategies : --
1. Start to trust more of your own feelings and thoughts and ideas. They are valuable, to You;
2. Realise that your deepest feelings are there as part of your Unique Guidance System;
3. Become the Master of Your Own Life;
4. Believe that emotional attachment and obligation to others, in the extreme, especially of it leads you away from what you are drawn to do, is keeping you from your best life (most comfortable) and could mean the difference between you fulfilling your true purpose, and not;
5. Clear your mind of Conditioning, then begin the process of Actively Listening for those thoughts that make you feel excited or just good inside, and act on them, small steps at a time to see where they might lead you. You can turn back at any time, but if the path feels good and your lovely feelings continue and grow, then you know that in these first sections or sectors of your choice of decision it is ‘right’ for you to be there. Your feelings will soon tell you when you should not be there, with those people or in that place, if you listen to what they are telling you. Many times the feeling-thoughts are subtle and so we need to listen quietly. Once we get used to Trusting Ourselves then it gets easier to recognise when the authentic (real you) feelings come to us.
6. Become strong enough to follow through on your thoughts regardless of what others think is best for you. They cannot know what is best for you, their own guidance is for themselves alone.